Children with Incarcerated Parents, Criminal Justice, Parenting, Uncategorized

Visiting Prison: The Endless Wait

I published an essay with The Osborne Association as part of their #SeeUsSupportUs campaign.

This one’s about the degrading treatment one receives when visiting a loved one in prison. If you haven’t joined #SeeUsSupportUs already, please consider doing so to support families coping with having an incarcerated loved one.

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Here’s the beginning of the essay:

I got the feeling nobody wanted to be at Clinton Correctional Facility in the summer of 2003. Not the guards. Not the incarcerated. Certainly not me. Yet my sister and I drove there for the weekend because we wanted to see our dad for the first time in years.

The Sunday of that visit, we arrived at 7:45am in hopes of getting in at 8:30—we had a seven-hour drive back to Buffalo and wanted to leave by noon. We received visitor pass #56.

There were no signs telling us where to go, where to wait, what to do. Just a room of silent women, some with children, some itching to go outside and smoke.

To read the rest, go to http://www.osborneny.org/news/voices-from-see-us-support-us-pamela-brunskill/.

 

aging, Parenting

A Coffee Date at 40: Why Time For Ourselves is Essential

I’ve got a new essay up at Parent.co today. Anyone who’s approaching or living through middle age and parenting, this one’s for you!

“It’s eight pm on a Saturday night. I’m in the middle of moving from central Pennsylvania to my hometown of Buffalo, New York. The move is part of some big, mid-life changes, and on this particular night, I’m by myself in Buffalo. So I call a…”

If it speaks to you, please share.

Best,

Pam

Children with Incarcerated Parents, Criminal Justice, Parenting, Uncategorized

The Crime Gene? No Such Thing.

I have an essay up on Goodhousekeeping.com today that explores the idea of the crime gene. Take a look at how fear impacted my parenting during my lowest moment, and how gathering courage to face that fear allowed for me to be a better parent and person.

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“A week after the birth of my third child, I brought a few cups from the kitchen table to the growing pile of dirty dishes on the counter, too exhausted to actually load them. The C-section and my son Michael’s stay in the NICU had taken its toll, and I could barely function…”

Read the rest of the essay here!

Children with Incarcerated Parents, Criminal Justice, Parenting, Uncategorized

Young casualties of our war on crime: How Trump & Sessions’ approach to incarceration will hurt the children of inmates

I argue Donald Trump’s proposed tough-on-crime policies will be tougher on children in this op-Ed piece in the NY Daily News.

President Obama, releasing a new batch of non-violent drug offenders, has just set a single-year clemency record…

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http://nydn.us/2gPMpM49

 

Childhood Cancer, Parenting

WHAT I’VE LEARNED: TIPS FOR PARENTS OF KIDS WITH ALL (Leukemia and Lymphoma Society Blog)

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My daughter Mackenzie was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL) in January 2014. Despite being the most common form of childhood cancer that has a very prescribed protocol with better-than-most survival rates, the diagnosis petrified me. My nine-year-old had cancer…

Read the rest at the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society blog.